You do not owe anything to anyone.
You do not owe it to anyone to look pretty. To weigh some magical number on the scale. To shave your pits or pedicure your feet.
You do not owe it to anyone to dress in a certain way that appeases them. To stick a toxic tampon up your vagina or a toxic weightloss pill down your throat. You do not owe it to anyone to wear padding in your bra to make your breasts look bigger.
You do not owe it to anyone to dye your grey hairs or fill in those wrinkles.
You do not owe it to anyone to shave those legs. To wax those chin, eyebrow or upper lip hairs. To wear a thong, lace-trimmed panties or any underwear at all.
You do not owe it to anyone to be agreeable, sweet, a people pleaser, tidy, organized, a good cook, Martha Stewart, well mannered or upbeat.
You do not owe it to anyone to look, feel or be as anyone WISHES you to be.
You only owe one thing to one person: and that person is you. That one thing is honesty. You deserve to live and be as you wish to be. For yourself.
Hairy, bald, loud, quiet, extroverted, introverted, A cup, DD cup, fat, skinny, pretty, ugly, pedicured, hobbit footed, bloody, plugged, mustached, bearded…
It’s all good if YOU choose it.
My legs are not smooth, my wrinkles have and will be met with love and acceptance, my armpits are like a scruffy man’s beard, my grey hairs are my favorite thing about my wild mane, my feet haven’t been pedicured in 6 years, I absolutely suck at cleaning, bras have no place in my drawer, and yet….I have never felt so beautiful in my life.
Do others agree? Oh… absolutely NOT. The looks I get when people notice my leg hairs. It’s hysterical.
I once lived for others. I once did all of the things to appease everyone…even strangers. My life revolved around the acceptance of others. Not anymore.
I don’t want to be accepted. I don’t want to be put on a pedestal or called beautiful. I only want one thing…
To be honest in my relationship with myself. It’s a wild ride, I tell ya, and I am loving every minute.
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